NOT CHO Date

Last night I went to Noche with a friend of mine. He and I were having a conversation about dating and the people we were dating. While sitting at the bar there was a slender, young, rather pretty, white lady sitting next to us. She could not help but over hear our conversation as if she was eager to join in. Me being the person I am, I turn to her and ask about dating. The question I asked was "Do you think you can date multiple people at one time?" She smiled and replied with a "Yes".

From that moment on her flood gate (mouth) opened and we could not get her to shut the hell up. Since I don't know her name, for the purpose of this entry we will call her Munkeisha. ;-)~ She goes on to tell us that eventually you will have to choose your path. One of the best ways to make that decision is by deciding who you prefer to call when you get off a flight, home from work, when something good happens. Further, Munkeisha went on to say she unlike a few of her friends do not think dating someone consist of going on 1 are 2 dates. She used her friend sitting two seats down as an example. If he goes on a few dates with someone he will say "yeah I dated her". Myself, like Munkeisha feels the same way, that’s not dating.

Actually dating someone takes time, energy and effort. What I have found is that when I mention the word dating to someone I am dating they consider it to be a relationship. Why is that? Does everyone in this city feel the need to be in a relationship? I don't think I need to be in one. Considering that I have just gotten out of one that lasted 6 years. Another relationship is the last thing on my list for 2008 and/or prolly 2009. I left there thinking about what Munkeisha told us and decided that of the people I am dating I don’t really have to call any of them first. So am I dating?

The Six Month Evolution Rule

Recently, I had a conversation with a friend of mine who gave me some great advice. He advised me that in life you should "never find yourself six months from now where you were six months ago". As I thought about it, I found it to be applicable to every aspect of life. Often times I found myself complacent in my career, relationships, etc. I found that once I actually strive for more and set my expectations higher. Things around me changed.

Evolution is one of the greatest parts of life. As individuals we evolve from conception. Once you stop evolving essentially you stop living. You typically find that through evolution you out grow "friends", jobs, situations and learn from circumstances. As I have grown and as circumstances in my life have changed I find that "everyone and everything aint for everybody. "

After that conversation with CBG I decided to set a lifetime goal to not be six months from now where I was six months ago.

Political Upside and Downturn

As I walked through ATL Airport a few weeks prior to the election I heard several airport workers discussing the debate from the previous night (10/15) in grave detail. I am amazed at how many of us on all economic levels are paying attention to what is going on. Never in my life had I heard black folks discussing politics in as much depth as I have over the past year. Which is the upside of us having a black man as president elect.

The downturn is our economy is in such a bad state, I hate that we as a country will not relish in wealth with a black man as president. We are in a term of gridlock and unfortunately our next president will get more heat in his first year alone than Bush has received his entire term. Blacks will be seeking relief from Obama while Whites and others will scrutinize for everything he does including wiping his ass. How do we find a medium?

In my opinion its simple. I think we must keep the momentum going after Obama becomes president. By that I mean this, it’s imperative that we encourage the people above to make sure they are involved on a local political level and not just vote every 4 years. We must "shore" up our families and friends and make sure they understand the most significant impacts come on the local level. Examples to give are local property taxes sales tax parks and street improvement etc.

Simply put you don't deal with your corporate CEO on a daily basis you deal with your directors and/or manager. Its important that we make sure our Councilman, Senators, Congressman, Mayors and Governors (managers/directors) are doing what’s required to improve our lives. Then effectively we can allow those individuals to pass our message on to the President (CEO).

If we continue at the pace we are going we can have a upside turn around to the downside of our current position.